Did you give in to that leftover piece of cake that was left at the office?
Or did you say “no” to the last favor that was asked of you because you had “something else” going on?
As humans, we are fantastic at picking from a wide range of excuses to limit our capabilities. This is in all areas of our lives, from going to the gym to studying for an exam. We even make up excuses to not reach out and be nice to those who are in need.
People use excuses to rationalize their actions regarding their circumstances, their actions toward other people, and regarding certain events. However, excuses are often the primary reasons why people are unable to accomplish what they want out of life.
Because of this, one of the best habits you can build is to proactively make a commitment to stop making excuses. Stop excusing your failures or your procrastination and start taking the steps that are necessary to get what you want out of life.
Original Heading to search in Youtube: NO EXCUSES – Best Motivational Video
Original Thumbnail to match:
Why do we make excuses?
What is the point? Do we make excuses just to get out of doing anything? Sometimes this is true, but there is usually some kind of motive behind making an excuse. Here are some common reasons why people make excuses.
The feeling of fear keeps us inside of our comfort zones and prevents us from venturing out into the unknown. However, fear is largely misunderstood. People are often afraid of things because they don’t understand them or they are lacking all of the information they need.
If excuses are constantly made to avoid things that we are afraid of, it is likely that the fear will never go away.
Failure is unavoidable. It is inevitable that at some point during your life you will fail. Whenever you’re trying something new or taking some risks, you have a chance of failing.
However, it is important to remember that you don’t lose everything when you fail. Failure just means that things are not going the way you expected them to go and you need to remain flexible to get back on track. So, if you make excuses to reduce your risk of failing, it means you are never trying anything new.
The fear of uncertainty means that you are worrying about unknown future events or circumstances that could come your way. People fear uncertainty because they don’t have enough experience to give them confidence.
Without experience and perspective, people often make assumptions or jump to conclusions about possible outcomes that could negatively impact them.
No specific goals
If you don’t have specific and measurable goals, it is easy to make excuses to avoid doing something that you don’t want to do.
For example, can you see the difference between: I want to lose weight this year and I am going to lose 10 pounds in the next 6 weeks?
With that specific goal in mind, you are less likely to come up with an excuse every day to skip the gym or to eat junk food. Vague goals will often get you very far.
You may make excuses because you are scared to make a mistake. Mistakes might seem like the end of the world to you. However, mistakes are actually valuable.
Think about the mistakes you have made in your life and consider the ways that they have actually added strength to your character. Think about all of the skills your mistakes have taught you and how they have shaped your body of knowledge and personal development.
It is important to see mistakes as being a beneficial and critical part of your life and embrace them. If you make excuses to avoid mistakes, you may miss out on some of your biggest mistakes that may end up being your best learning experiences.
People often fear being compared to others who they perceive to be more talented or better than others. People often measure themselves up to see if they perform better or worse than others.
It is important to not make excuses so you won’t be compared to other people because then you aren’t even giving yourself a chance to succeed. Who knows, compared with someone else, you may be the best.
It is common to want to protect yourself from harm in any way. Whether it is physical, emotional, or mental, you are likely always on the lookout just a little bit to keep yourself safe.
For this reason, you may come up with excuses to not do things. You want to protect yourself and not put yourself in harm’s way. While sometimes this is a very smart thing to do, other times it may hold you back.
Sure, you don’t want to write that paper, you don’t want to make a healthy dinner at home, and you don’t want to go to the gym. Without motivation, you can come up with any excuse in the book to stay complacent.
Types of Excuses
We mentioned that there are a wide range of excuses that people choose from when they are making an excuse.
These may be excuses that they make in their heads to just not do something or an excuse they tell to someone else who is asking them to do something. Either way, here are some common types of excuses people make.
- I don’t have time.
- I don’t make enough money.
- I can’t because I have kids.
- I don’t have an education.
- I don’t know how.
- This is who I am, I can’t change.
- I’m destined for failure.
- I’m bad luck.
13 Steps to Stop Making Excuses
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
The truth is, other people are probably comparing themselves to you. Also, when you are comparing yourself to someone else, you are probably only seeing part of the whole picture and filling in the rest with a lot of assumptions.
You can honestly never know what a person’s life is really like by seeing them from the outside so you can never truly compare yourself to anyone else.
If you are making an excuse to not try something new because you are comparing yourself to others who are experts in the field, remember that they once stood in your shoes and were able to get where they are today.
2. Stop fearing the unknown.
Sure, things may go wrong. But, things may also go very right. The unknown can be scary, but that does not mean that it is necessarily bad.
So many good things can come in your life from taking chances into areas that are unknown to you. You can’t just assume that anything that is unknown to you is going to turn out to be a negative thing.
3. Stop blaming others for your misfortune.
One of the most destructive things you can do in life is to play the blame game. It is the basis for a considerable amount of frustration and unhappiness in people’s lives.
The blame game entails blaming someone else for something that happened to you that was undesirable, and staying convinced that it was someone else’s fault instead of being proactive and making the necessary changes to resolve a situation. This often stems from irrational thinking and is not healthy for you or for the person you are blaming.
4. Take responsibility.
There are two components of taking responsibility. One is accepting personal responsibility and the other is accepting indirect responsibility.
Taking personal responsibility refers to taking ownership of your own actions and their consequences. If you are unable to accept responsibility for your actions or mistakes, it is likely very hard to gain the respect of other people.
Indirect responsibility involves moving beyond yourself to take necessary action to help other people. Having this type of responsibility reveals a factor of your character.
However, some may think of an excuse to not help someone else, perhaps assuming that someone else will do it. This is not a good way to gain the respect of other people.
Taking personal responsibility means taking ownership of your own actions and their consequences.
5. Take action.
Part of taking action is taking risks. You may have big plans that you can imagine are great in theory, but never plan on actually following through with.
Stop making excuses and take the action that is needed to achieve the goals you want in life and create success for yourself.
6. Set small, attainable goals.
Setting large goals may seem so overwhelming that you don’t even know where to start. Further, you may start working towards your long-term goal and find that you are not getting anywhere fast and give up.
Instead, break down your ultimate goal into many smaller goals that are attainable so you can make progress that you can actually see. Every time you meet one of these smaller goals, you will be more motivated to continue on to your ultimate goal.
For example, let’s say you aren’t much of a runner, but you want to run a marathon. You may start out by running one mile and then think that running 26.2 miles is an unattainable goal and you should just quit. Rather than starting with the ultimate goal of running a marathon, start with aiming to complete a 5k.
This is an attainable goal for someone who does not have a lot of running experience. Once that goal is complete, move up to a 10k. Keep increasing this goal until you reach your ultimate goal of finishing a marathon.
Power of Small Wins
7. Learn from your mistakes.
Not only can you learn what not to do when you make a mistake, but you can also analyze what went wrong and figure out how you can do it better in the future.
All mistakes are learning opportunities, no matter how big or small the mistake may be. Often, trial and error is the best way to work something out.
8. Don’t focus on your weaknesses.
If you have a few weaknesses, be aware of them, but do not focus on them. Rather, focus on your strengths and the things that you have to offer that other people do not.
You can even delegate certain tasks to other people to help you bridge the gap in places where you know you will not be able to do a perfect job.
Stop thinking about your weaknesses. If you have a few weaknesses, be aware of them, but do not focus on them.
9. You have the power to change.
You do. You just have to be motivated to do so. You can’t feel defeated or complacent with your life just being “okay.” Without making excuses, you have the power to change anything in your life.
If you don’t feel like you can do it on your own, seek help from other people in order to achieve your goals and get the results you are looking for. Never think that you simply cannot change an aspect of your life.
When you are faced with a challenge, do you feel like you can handle it or do you come up with some excuses to avoid it?
Perhaps you have a tendency to doubt your own abilities to rise to the challenge and overcome the hardships that life throws your way?
Having self-efficacy means you have a strong belief in your own abilities to handle various situations. This can play an important role in how you feel about yourself and whether or not you are able to achieve the results you want in life.
11. Visualize your success.
Literally visualize what it would look like and feel like to achieve your goal and have success. Doing this can add some motivation to your agenda, as you will want to actually be able to feel those feelings of accomplishment.
12. It’s ok, you’re not perfect.
The truth is, no one is perfect. Also, no one expects you to be perfect.
Accept your mistakes and know that other people are willing to accept your mistakes as well, especially if you own up to them and learn from them. This is something that happens to everyone, even the most successful people.
Accept your mistakes and know that other people are willing to accept your mistakes as well, especially if you own up to them and learn from them.
13. It’s a habit that can be changed.
If you are used to coming up with excuses to get out of doing things, this is a habit that can be changed. Think about what you are actually trying to avoid when you make an excuse. Are you avoiding doing extra work? Or maybe you don’t want to give up your free time or move around your priorities?
Try to figure out what you are really trying to get away from and address it head on. You can stop making excuses and start getting the results you want if you are able to have a clear vision of what you want for the future.
When it comes to your own future, making excuses is a habit that is limiting your ability to meet your full potential. It can keep you spinning your wheels for years without making any progress and lead you to feelings of dissatisfaction with life or a lack of purpose.
If you choose to blame other people for your own actions, this can lead to bad outcomes including developing a bad reputation with colleagues and peers.
You may take this to the opposite extreme and give other people credit for work that you actually did. If this is the case, you will likely be wondering why you are not making progress toward achieving your goals.
So, how can you make a change to make sure you get the results you are looking for in your life?
Follow the 13 steps that I outlined in this article, which will allow you to take the important first step to forever breaking this bad habit. Start with one or two. Once those are mastered, add a few more. It won’t take long to follow all of these habits an set yourself up for long term success in your life.
Honestly, sometimes people get so used to making excuses that doing so is their default answer to everything. They hardly consider actually saying “yes” or taking on responsibility.
They are just wired to come up with one of the excuses that they hold handy. It is important to make the best of every situation instead and never make an excuse that is not valid.